How to face “chicken ribs” love
There are many famous love halls. Recently I heard that there is another kind of love called “chicken ribs”, which is very interesting, so I wanted to get “love class” to share with you and analyze it.
A handsome man, a white-collar worker, has a culture and temperament. In the words of his girlfriend, he really found the Prince Charming in his mind.
They have been talking to friends for almost three years, and the young man has shown her diligence and care.
But when she mentioned “Let’s get married!”
“The young man will say,” Not ready yet, the foundation of the business is too thin “and so on, one after another, the reasons for not getting married.
However, when she said, “That breakup is all right,” the young man pointed to Tianmeng and vowed, “I love you alone.”
Just dragging around like this.
She said, “Give up. It’s not easy to find such a person who likes you; together, you can’t see the results.
“This is a typical” chicken rib “love story I recently heard.
You might guess that the young man must adopt the strategy of “waiting for change”, and by some days, the career will change and the material foundation will be rich, which will surprise the girl.
But she said that, based on his current career foundation, he already has a range that is superior to his peers, and it should have all of them.
Let’s hear how this young man feels about her: “I think she is particularly good, better than all the girls I know before, but once I find that I have no distance with her, some think of having sex and getting married., I can’t help but feel nervous and frightened, as if the relationship between me and her is out of control, I can’t deal with it, so I must keep a certain distance from her.
It was for this reason that I broke up with my former girlfriend.
I thought I was still immature, it would be better if I was older, but now I am not too young, she is also very good to me, I still can’t take this step.
“Have heard his confession, it is quite different from his excuse for girls.
Therefore, the “chicken rib” love is a confusing and helpless thing, and sometimes it is a “embarrassing” thing that makes you face your true spiritual world.
If there is such a love around you, it starts long enough, more than two years; the conditions for both men and women to merge and combine; if one party is not willing to marry, can you tell whether it is what we have above?What about love?
Here is a psychological quiz to help you judge.
You can start with a Tang poem “Maple Bridge at Night”: “The moon is falling and the sky is full of frost, and Jiang Fengyuhuo sleeps sadly.
Hanshan Temple outside Gusu City, the bell came to the passenger boat at midnight.
“Then you ask him or her to close their eyes and imagine the picture of the poem in his mind.
First ask him where and how he looks in the picture.
Then guide him to see the river on which the ship is stopped is a certain kind of water, the clarity of the river water, there is an animal in the water, what is the relationship between them, and his attitude towards different animals.
His appearance symbolizes his psychological age; the appearance of the “river” symbolizes vitality; the clarity of the river water indicates sexual attitudes; the animals in the water (such as fish, dolphins, water snakes, turtles, etc.) symbolize the opposite sex;The relationship between them represents the degree of psychological harmony with the opposite sex; his attitude towards different animals symbolizes his acceptance of the opposite sex.
For example, he saw “I am a twenty-year-old talent standing on the shore; the river is more than ten meters wide and very clear; there are many herrings and a few red goldfish in the water; swimming between them, Xiang’anIt’s okay; he admires a red goldfish and hopes that he will become a black goldfish to accompany it.
“Then his psychological age is in his twenties, with strong vitality and healthy sexual attitude; he likes meek opposites; he has a harmonious attitude towards different heterosexuals; he is in love and likes each other very much.
If the relationship between the animals is not harmonious, and there is always fear of the animals in the water, wait and see, etc. When the polar attitude is eliminated, it is most likely the participation of “chicken ribs” in love.
Maybe this quiz can help us further understand the psychological factors that make “chicken ribs” love. In fact, we can also see that both parties involved in love are not very happy, especially the party who is unwilling to truly open their hearts.
The young man in the above story is an example. For him, he is really “feared and loved” for the opposite sex. He puts the relationship between the two parties within a controllable range, so although he can prevent himself from losing control of the opposite sex, it can also be said thatPrevent the opposite sex from controlling itself.
He can be a rational gentleman, but it also means that he has lost a chance to try a master of love.
Although in the end maybe the girl (including his ex-girlfriend) would leave him, he would still walk away like a gentleman. He thought that he did not hurt the girl in form. He was very noble, but he did hurt the girl deeply.Emotions and love for him.
Therefore, it is very wise to choose to break up with the party that is hurt in the “chicken rib” love.
So, won’t the “chicken rib” love be transformed into the love of the lover?
Take the story of that girl as an example.
First of all, she has to persist, how long it takes is unknown; secondly, she continues to pay for her emotions and love without asking for reward; again, she must be prepared for the other party to leave like a “gentleman” at any time.
The original purpose was to give the other party a sufficient sense of security so that their psychological control and fear could be eliminated.
For the young man, first of all, he must make up his mind to face his psychological “out of control” feeling; secondly, he repeatedly participates (reading nothing) and reads a Tang poem “Advising the monk not to cherish the golden robe, and persuading the monarch to take the young.
The flowers bloom and fold straight and must be folded.”The symbolic meaning of” golden clothes “here is” gentlemanship “; the symbolic meaning of” boyhood “is the true self.
The original purpose was to reduce his chances of “thinking about his brain” and thinking about ways to “intervene” in the situation, so that he could more appreciate the true disposition revealed by himself and the other party.
Analysis here, she and him decided to break up without breaking up is still a matter between them, but just wish them well on the road to future love.